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We have all had toxic people dust us with their poison. Difficult people are drawn to the reasonable ones and all of us have likely had or have at least one person in our lives who have us bending around ourselves like barbed wire in endless attempts to please them — only to never really get there. Being able to spot their harmful behaviour is the first step to minimising their impact.
You might not be able to change what they do, but you can change what you do with it, and any idea that toxic somebody in your life might have that they can get away with it. There are plenty of things toxic people do to manipulate people and situations to their advantage. Here are 12 of them. Knowing them will help you to avoid falling under the influence:. When this happens, you might find yourself making excuses for them or doing everything you can to make them happy.
See why it works for them? Stop trying to please them. Toxic people figured out a long time ago that decent people will go to extraordinary lengths to keep the people they care about happy. Walk away and come back when the mood has shifted. If you have done something unknowingly to hurt somebody, ask, talk about it and if need be, apologise. Toxic people have a way of sending out the vibe that you owe them something.
They also have a way of taking from you or doing something that hurts you, then maintaining they were doing it all for you.
This is particularly common in workplaces or relationships where the balance of power is out. For Remember that. Just move forward — without them. Some people want to be right more than they want to be happy and you have better things to do than to provide fodder for the right-fighters. Are you sure you want to go? The message might be innocent enough but the tone conveys so much more.
Mine was awful. Just awful. Meanwhile, your initial need is well gone on the pile of unfinished conversations that seems to grow bigger by the day. We all get it wrong sometimes but toxic people will make sure you know it. You can always say no to unnecessary crazy. Be confident and own your own faults, your quirks and the things that make you shine. Your partner will never take responsibility for her behavior, she will never apologize and you will once again lose part of yourself.
Peace of mind is absolutely obtainable and you deserve it. I dont need a confession or witnesses or proof only my intuition which is always right on.I Pity Those Who Take Me Seriously... Sometimes
I feel so alone, but obviously Im not. Im so confused because 27 years ago I think I was a nice person. I thought I fell in love with a nice person. Over the years Ive drastically changed from the person I was or thought I was. You do everything for everyone else but nothing for me. Now he can only say I do nothing for him. Im on my feet all day and have a very early start. In the past if I had to do anything with his business he wiould ring and yell at me and tell m how dumb and useless I was then hang up. But at least I know I work 5 days a week and look after the home.
Easier not to have friends and stay home. I drink to much — years ago I would have a wine with lemonade. Gradually I increased my consumption. It helped me relax and numb the comments. I never knew what sort of mood he would come home in and what I would get into trouble for. Easier to be at home. Anyway I now am going through very bad menapouse — he was kind of understanding at first but now he is over it. He hates it if I cry, he finds it very annoying. Looking back I should have left years ago, instead I tried to hide it all from our daughter, so now she thinks its all my fault. Omg your story sounds just like mine!
I am 18 years In and I have changed who I was! I used to be outgoing and had friends and now with him he was jealous possessive always having attitude if I mentioned going anywhere at all no mall no dinner with friends nothing! He thinks he has a right to control me because he makes more money and is always threatening to leave me and take everything. I prefer to just stay home instead of asking if I can hang out even with my sisters he has a problem!
I want to leave but he will make my life miserable and I fear going through all the pain and suffering instead I just live day by day hoping one day I get brave enough to leave. Why is is so wrong to be with some else for a few hours. If a few meetings here there keeps the sick marriage intact so be it to. How is two wrongs a right. You showed him showed him who you really was at heart. I agree with you, Roger. Two wrongs do NOT make a right.
This person needs to leave the relationship. Just say goodbye and move on.
Same hereI want him to leave, my house way before meeting him. Will be 50, times worse if I file for divorce. I refuse to leave my home I have lost everything that I have worked for my whole life. Nobody that I work with understands that. He became evil after my mom died and I have nobody as he has turned my ,? Friends against me. So, day by day I work I come home I do nothing but cry and have thoughts of… I would never do anything as I am a pathetic wimp that is afraid of everything, his words. All while he just lies around like he is king tut with that smirk on his face, I could go on and on and write a book also.
He has destroyed my cars, my home, my finances and my spirit. I can understand why on those investigational showswomen do what they do. Come to find out I believe my mom was a narcissistic as well, my life with her to him. Never new that people like that had a medical dx, no law to protect the innocent and weak from being mentally, emotionally and financially abused everyday.
They just get away with it. Im so sorry to hear about your situation. I hope that someday you figure out how to leave him without giving up too much more than you have. Really it will.
So proud of you for your resolve to seek a better life. Believe in yourself. You deserve to live in peace. Dear Julie, my heart breaks when I read your story. I know just what you are talking about, the slow decline of who you are. Best advice?
Get out now. Tell her your fears, your hurt, your hopes. Then tell your man you are leaving. Do not spend the rest of your life hating yourself for staying with such a shit. Yes it will be hard, but the relief you will feel after is glorious! I think a lot of it regarding your daughter depends on age. You need to do what you have to do to make you happy, you know the answer, as I do in my relationship. My prayers are with you. I can also recommend therapeutic books which will change your mind set. Well u sounded like me in alot of ways he works labor pool daily pay we live in a suite and its been.
This is the story of my life. Story of my life. He accuses me of cheating, and on occasions he calls me a whore. We split for awhile because he cheated while I was giving birth and of course she got pregnant. He cried and begged me to take him back, he even tried committing suicide several times. Well I took him back and we split again, he promised me he would change and things would be different because he found God. Julie, I do not know if you still read this message board. I just wanted to reach out and tell you how much your story has moved me and how much I am sorry that you are treated this way by your abusive husband.
It will be best for your mental and physical health to divorce and live in peace. It will be difficult, as you say your daughter has been confused about whose fault the situation is. But with time, as she matures, she will see things for what they are. After 27 years, you have to think about yourself and live your days with joy, fulfillment and respect.
I hope you are okay Julie, sounds very similar to my friends relationships and I just hope you are safe and alright, sounds like you are feeling very alone, please know other woman do understand, maybe a group of support, even just online would really help a lot of you woman deal with the vulnerable situations you are in, so sorry for your struggle and hope you know you are not alone, it just feels that way.
This was me! I left him and got together with a gal pal from 20some years ago.Take me around sometimes
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